I have three friends who have lost children. And they don't just maintain, they conquer. They have other children, careers, businesses and they are strong. Awesome women. Amazingly strong. Their strength, their faith and their ability to plow ahead has been a really big inspiration to me.
In the past seven hours, I have spoken to two women who have just started a journey they never thought they would be on. They both have cancer. And, ironically, they are friends. And, they share a passion and now they will share recovery.
This afternoon, I called the one lady to check on her. She just had her first chemo treatment. What did she have to say?, "I cannot believe how lousy I feel, I cannot miss my kids games and stuff and I don't want to waste food when I cannot taste it." OMG lady, you just had a chemo treatment on Friday, cut yourself some slack. And, typical female, she was worrying about making her kids feel normal, while she felt lousy and of course it always comes back to food. Penny pinching mother was worried about wasting food. And, she was worried about work and others having to cover for her. She was chatty and none of it was about her.
Then this evening, Walker told me that the other woman has cancer. My Walker ADORES her. And when I called her, not knowing what to say or how to say it, the only thing she was worried about was her kids and her parents. She wasn't worried about herself, she was worried about others. And she was worried about my boys, both of them.
She is about to go have her life and her health derailed and she is worried about everybody else.
And she said those infamous words, "I didn't think it would be like this." Boy, I could relate, a little. he curve ball from heaven.
After I spoke to her, I just sat back in my car, closed my eyes and said a prayer for both ladies. While I prayed for their health and their families, I prayed for continued strength. And I prayed that they both stay assured and not alarmed and filled with their zesty spirits.
My mother told me that before a woman gets married, she needs to spend days with the prospective groom while he is sick. I think all females will say that is pretty good advice my mom has there.
My husband has said to both boys, "you sound like a girl, you fight like a girl". I think all men need some girl in them. Especially the fight and spirit of the woman and girls I know.
I am proud to say I know these women. And I am very proud of my lady friends. The single moms, the mother's of autistic and deaf kids, the women who take care of their parents and children, the women who get up at 4:30am, run five miles, work full time and still get a hot meal on the table, the women who have dropped change in the coinstar machine to make sure their kids had the perfect Christmas present, the women who do for others before themselves, for the moms who seize the day and create a spirit in their families and the other women who have bravely fought this battle and won.
And I am so happy that we have the "fight of a girl" in all of us, everyday.
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